Creating More Space!

Let’s unpack schedules, work, life, marriages, kids, health and TIME. Because let’s face it - many of us are feeling like the lists keep growing, there’s no time to get things done and for whatever reason, our society still rewards busy like a badge of honor.

Full calendar.
Back-to-back commitments.
Squeezing in workouts.
Eating in the car.
Answering emails at stoplights.

And if there’s even a sliver of open time? We rush to fill it because being still can feel… uncomfortable.

But here’s what midlife has a way of teaching us:
You can’t heal, think clearly, regulate your nervous system or feel like yourself again when your life has no breathing room.

So this topic isn’t just about time management.
It’s about energy management, nervous system safety and creating enough space in your life to actually live it.

I really belive that starts with unpacking three things:
Your schedule. Your boundaries. Your white space.

1. Unpacking Your Schedule: Is Everything on It Still Meant to Be There?

Many of us are living schedules that were built for a version of us that doesn’t exist anymore.
Maybe the woman who said yes to everything. Or the woman who could run on fumes and still feel okay. Or the woman who believed productivity = worth at some point. But those are all things we have to let go of! Because at some point - our life requires us to start asking different questions:

  • Does this still support my energy or drain it?

  • Is this aligned with my values right now? Or have things changed?

  • Am I doing this from desire… or because I feel like I have to?

When your schedule is packed from morning to night, your body stays in low-grade stress mode all day long. This is exactly what keeps cortisol (our stress hormone) elevated. Blood sugar becomes unstable. And your brain never fully powers down. And then we start to wonder why we feel:

  • Wired and tired

  • Snappy and overstimulated

  • Too exhausted to cook

  • Too drained to work out

  • Too overwhelmed to think straight

If that’s the case - it might be time to really dig into time energy and effort and assess where all of it is going…and more importantly WHY it’s going certain places?!

Sometimes the most powerful wellness move isn’t a supplement or a new routine - it’s removing things from your calendar that don’t serve you anymore!

2. Boundaries: The Invisible Guardrails of Your Energy

Boundaries aren’t about being rigid or selfish. They’re about being intentional with your limited resources - meaning your time, your attention and your emotional capacity. As busy moms and midlife women, we often become the default parent, emotional manager, planner, fixer and the one who just “handles it.”

But when you never draw lines, your life slowly fills with everyone else’s priorities and your wellness becomes something you “try to get to later.”

Here’s the truth:

Every time you say yes to something that drains you…
You are unintentionally saying no to your energy, your health and your presence at home.

So starting to implement and execute on health boundaries are an essential. And they can look like “I can’t take that on right now.” or “I need to check my schedule before I commit.” or “That doesn’t work for me in this season.” And THAT’S OK!

Boundaries are the thing that protect the version of you that YOU and your family actually need — someone who is patient, present and not constantly running on empty.

3. White Space: The Most Underrated Wellness Tool

White Space. Have you heard of it? Because it’s not wasted time or energy. Or “doing nothing.”
It’s unstructured, unscheduled room for your nervous system to come out of fight-or-flight. And it matters because this is where your thoughts settle, your creativity can return and your emotions have room to process!

White space might look like:

  • Sitting with your coffee without your phone

  • A walk without a podcast

  • 10 minutes in the car before going inside

  • An evening with nothing scheduled

These moments may look small, but physiologically, they are where healing happens!

As you take a minute to reflect and dive deeper, start here and ask yourself this:
“What can I remove to make room for the woman I’m becoming?”

Because the goal isn’t to do more. In the end…we’re “human beings” not “human doings”.
Make time to just BE. It’s imperative for inside out health.

Erin Trier